Tender Hands

The weather has been almost perfect here. We are so overjoyed to have temperatures below 100 that we're trying to be outside as much as possible because I'm afraid it could change at any moment and want to soak it all in. 

My sweet helper and I have been doing some gardening work to prepared our garden for fall planting. While pruning the herbs she found a ladybug! She was so excited and carried it so proudly -- exclaiming that she was now the Ladybug Girl (see book).

I kept reminding her to be careful and not to squish it, but once I stopped talking and started watching, she was doing that exact thing and being so tender with it. 

This made me pause and think.... As parents of toddlers, we often times are too quick to comment or correct their behavior because it's so deeply ingrained in us to guide them.  But if we step back and observe, we will most always find they are already doing exactly as they should.

Charlotte's 1st day of school packet included a brochure from The Stuttering Group. Though most of us already do what is advised on the list, it is a good reminder to all.

                            7 Tips for Talking With Your Child

1. Speak with your child in an unhurried way, pausing frequently. Wait a few seconds after your child finishes speaking before you begin to speak. Your own slow, relaxed speech will be far more effective than any criticism or advice such as "slow down" or "try it again slowly".
2. Reduce the number of questions you ask your child. Instead of asking questions, simply comment on what your child has said. 
3. Use your facial expressions and other body language to convey to your child that you are listening to the content of her message and not to how she's talking. 
4. Set aside a few minutes at a regular time each day when you can give your undivided attention to your child. This quiet, calm time can be a confidence-builder for younger children. 
5. Help all members of the family learn to take turns talking and listening. Children, especially those who stutter, find it much easier to talk when there are few interruptions. 
6. Observe the way you interact with your child. Try to increase those times that give our child the message that you are listening to her and she has plenty of time to talk.
7. Above all, convey that you accept your child as she is.  The most powerful force will be your support of her.